Should You Do a First Look at Your Wedding? Pros, Cons, and Photographer Insight
What Is a First Look?
A first look is a private moment before the ceremony where couples see each other for the first time. It’s becoming more popular, especially for couples wanting to ease nerves or maximize photo time. My wife and I decided to do a first look and private vows at our wedding because she didn't like public speaking. Others don't like it because they prefer to have that genuine reaction as the bride is going down the aisle. Whatever it may be, let's discuss why you might want to consider doing a first look at your wedding!
Pros of Doing a First Look
✅ More Time Together: You get to spend more of the day together instead of waiting until the ceremony.
✅ Eases Nerves: Calms jitters and creates a peaceful, emotional moment to anchor the day.
✅ More Photos, More Flexibility: Allows for portraits, bridal party photos, and even family photos before the ceremony—freeing up your timeline later.
✅ Better Light: First looks are usually scheduled earlier in the day, which often means softer natural light (depending on the venue/time of year).
Cons of Doing a First Look
❌ Breaks Tradition: If you’re dreaming of the aisle moment, a first look may take away from that.
❌ Earlier Start Time: You’ll need to be photo-ready earlier in the day.
❌ Fewer Reactions at the Aisle: For some, the moment of walking down the aisle feels different when you’ve already seen each other.
Where First Look Photos Usually Happen
I recommend choosing a location that's in a quiet, private, shaded spot with good natural light. This can be on venue grounds (tree-lined path, lakeside, garden, private corner) or inside a beautiful bridal suite or quiet hallway. As your photographer, I always scout a spot ahead of time to ensure it’s ideal for the moment. You can also check the grounds beforehand to find a place that is meaningful for the both of you.
What Do I Recommend?
There’s no “right” answer—it’s all about your priorities. If you’re timeline-conscious, love candid moments, or want extra time for portraits, a first look is a great fit. If you're more traditional or want that emotional aisle moment above all, skipping it might feel more meaningful to you. If you want to try an alternative, you can also do a "first touch" where you get to at least be in each other's presence and say a few words before the ceremony. Regardless, wedding photographers should be equipped to handle any scenario and ensure your day flows the way that is important to you.
Let’s Plan Your Timeline
Still unsure if a first look fits your day? I offer timeline assistance and planning to fit in the most important moments of your day-first look or not. Let’s chat and start planning!
